JUDGEMENT AND PESSIMISM
“I am fair and everyone else is unfair and cheater”
This is the most promoting thought these days, sometimes we say it to next person but some people don’t say at all but trust me some time somewhere they also become haughty and feel superior to others. Dealing in such situation is the dilemma because at one side you have to justify your position as well as you have to deal them with patience and this is quite a difficult practice. Question is what the root of this problem is? It is baffling to know that, we ourselves are responsible for deteriorating our society. We are becoming harsh, judgmental and irritable to each other. We listen half, understand quarter and react double. Lack of patience is also a root cause of boosting this attitude. When a couple becomes bedevilment due to daily basis haggle it is obvious to promote negativity among their children. The quarrelling blood does not stay calm at one place. Lack of patience comes in heirship and that leads to the sense of superiority and intolerance for other’s success or other person’s point of view.
We need to learn more about humanistic approach rather than negativity. Women face more problems in this regard than men. Someone said “Because you are the woman, people will force their thinking on you, their boundaries on you. They will tell you how to dress, how to behave, who you can meet and where you can go.” When a girl/woman come out of home for her family this male dominant society makes a lot of perceptions about her, talk about her character and all. They are none other than women who make it difficult for their fellow gender to survive. Although good people also do exist “one dirty fish can contaminate the pond”. Being judgmental about others is really bad, let it in Almighty’s hand and for the day restricted for judgements. It’s not always bad to have this approach, it can have positive effects if we use it for ourselves. Do not ignore the inner voice of your heart let it do recension, listen to it. We are no one to assume multifarious things about any human being. We are born free and will die free, no one has right to judge us except one WHO has created us. Acknowledge your faults today and be humble and optimistic about your fellow beings.
Thomas Aquinas said very well “Every judgement of conscience, be it right or wrong, be it about things evil in themselves or morally indifferent, it is obligatory in such wise that he who acts against his conscience always sins’. Your one wrong sentence to someone detract him from his passion. He who deserved to be at a better place wander on roads in miserable condition and one who deserves death owns a prestigious post. Many candidates appearing in an exam or in any interview thinks that there will be unfair decisions, and decision makers are biased. The wrong perception leads to pessimism then disappointment. If they are not selected because someone deserves to be selected, their perception does not allow them to look on the positive side they will definitely conclude that judges are unfair. If you have not used bribery and intercession ever, then you will not think about an unfair decision. If you are clear and honest enough then you will be blessed with same people everywhere. The only solution is to follow your fair intuition and correct your own direction and lead others by your acts, not by your tongue.